Fake Personalities Layered in Heavy Make Up
At the time I began my life for the second time, I happen to see an extremely beautiful girl at Delkanda, Sri Lanka. We began to connect with each other and after a while we started liking each other. By that time, I had not revealed my true-life story to her, as it was indeed a filthy and stinky one that no girl would want to hear from anyone that she is expecting to have as her life partner. The first chapter of my life was full of drugs, immortality, mental instability, fights, robberies, expelling, begging and many other similar disastrous things which no girl in the world would ever like to hear or expose her life to. However, my conscious was pushing me to be honest as lying was a killer poison that led me towards many destructions during the first chapter of my life.
I never wanted to lie to her, but I was afraid that she would not speak to me after hearing my worthless story. I knew no girl would want to invest their life in me if they ever knew my story. I was left with only two options. The first one was to lie to her and make her mine but be prepared to face the consequences of lying once everything is revealed someday. The second option was to tell her the truth about who I was and face the reality and see if she would say yes to me. Even though the probability of the second option turning into reality was very low, I strongly decided to choose the option of being honest at the cost of losing this amazingly innocent and incomparably beautiful girl. Dishonesty led me to beg in the streets. Dishonesty destroyed my valuable relationships. Dishonesty prevented me from receiving the treatment I deserved. Dishonesty made me a fake personality.
Every time I lied to someone with the hope of making a few quick bucks, I never knew I was lying to myself. The night that I slept inside a public toilet on a large cardboard box that was used to pack a refrigerator, I realised that I had not cheated on anyone else but myself. I have cheated on myself in large scale. I always tell both my children that honesty is the key to success and peace. Success is no success if you are not at peace. Honesty removes the need of being fake which is a heavy ask. The maximum life span of a heavy makeup is just a single day. It is a difficult task to walk in another person’s shoes. I encourage both my children to be honest regardless of the scale of the mistake they make as it would make it easier to revive the proper treatment.
I always tell people you should not say you have a headache when you are having a stomachache. It will not cure your stomachache and you might even end up with an unwanted headache for consuming unnecessary medications. Those days I even used to wear clothes that belonged to my friends just to showcase a rich lifestyle which I did not possess. During my second chapter, we wore whatever we had and being ourselves was so much lighter than bearing the burden of being fake.
Honesty makes you a free man whereas manipulation makes you a slave of artificial attraction and false acceptance. Whenever our children make mistakes, we do not yell at them, we embrace them and guide them with love. If you punish your children for small mistakes, they will never be open to you when they make a bigger mistake. When they make a mistake, if they feel that they are not welcomed and embraced at home they are sure to look for other places that would make them feel comfortable and open. The problem in that is that our children may run into venues that are disastrous and poisonous to their lives. The absence of my mother pushed me to seek alternative avenues where I was accepted and given a sense of worthiness.
However, the places I found were unhealthy. Dishonesty was their lifestyle, and they did it effortlessly.
Your consciousness is like your muscles. Even though initially it might find it difficult to lift a heavy weight, the more you lift it the more you make it common to you. Once lying becomes alien to your conscious then you will find it difficult to lie. The more you lie the more your conscious finds it common and allows it to be released effortlessly. That is the level where we would find people lying for everything and anything. I used to lie to my innocent father for everything and anything.
Cultivate an environment of honesty in your homes. That will mould your children with a strong personality. Honesty breeds confidence whilst dishonesty breeds insecurity. Honesty makes you an open-minded person who is ready for correction. Yet, dishonesty makes you an enclosed personality who is not eligible for correction. Honesty and contentment go hand in hand. Dishonesty demands for more than you possess leaving you unable to be content with what you have in hand. The sole purpose of people who manipulate is to create a false version of themselves to attract more than what you could attract with the genuine version of yourself. A lot of people are struggling in life because of being fake. Maintaining a fake image is pretty costly and unsustainable.
The very next day after I opened myself to my girlfriend who apparently is my wife now, another lady who was in the surrounding had come up to her and asked her “Do you have any idea of who you are associating?” Then my wife habitually with a pleasing smile told that lady “Yes indeed I do, I know him in and out as he told me everything about him. I am not interested in who he was in the past, my interest is on who he is right now”. Had I lied to her at the inception, my entire world would have ended up in a chaos. Honesty will ultimately bring forth a delicious fruit but lying and manipulating will certainly end up producing a bitter fruit.
The outcome of dishonesty is always painful. Manipulation will bring you satisfaction in the short term and it will ultimately drown you in a sea of tears. Today, I do not have to live a life under heavy makeup as I have already presented myself in the most natural form that I could ever present myself. Furthermore, honesty does not clog the cognitive process in your mind hence your thought circuits will function effortlessly without any distraction. You will enjoy a peaceful sleep by being honest. Dishonesty will clog your cognitive process as it constantly requires additional effort to maintain the manipulations. Your thought circuits are required to work under pressure nevertheless, you may tend to lose a peaceful sleep.
Even up to date I enjoy my life by being honest to the depth by openly sharing who I was. I am not at all interested in any friends who are fond of me for who I am not. I have a limited number of friends today and they all love me for who I am and not merely for who I was. My history does not cause shame to my wife and two adorable children who consider their father as a hero. Honesty moulds heroes and dishonesty crafts slaves. Marriage is awesome when it is built on the foundation of honesty. Many people are led into divorces when manipulation exists in the initial stage of the affair where the relationship is built on a pretense lifestyle. Pretention is shaky and unstable whilst honesty is a strong foundation of concrete.
Honesty and contentment go hand in hand. Dishonesty demands for more than you possess leaving you unable to be content with what you have in hand. The sole purpose of people who manipulate is to create a false version of themselves to attract more than what you could attract with the genuine version of yourself.