The bold and the beau­ti­ful

Friday - - ADS - Karen Pasquali Jones Edi­tor kpasqual­i­jones@gulfnews.com

Iam not what you would call a shrink­ing vi­o­let. I give im­promptu speeches, ap­pear on live ra­dio or TV at a mo­ment’s no­tice and have been known to belt out the odd karaoke tune or two.

In my ca­reer I have given pre­sen­ta­tions to (nearly all male) boards of some of the big­gest me­dia com­pa­nies in the world. My for­mer bosses are global (male) house­hold names, who I had to share my vi­sion with, and deliver the promised re­sults.

And yet there have been times when I have been ter­ri­fied at work, deep breath­ing in the ladies’ room be­fore an im­por­tant meet­ing and putting on red lip­stick to make my­self look – and feel – more pow­er­ful. “You’re good,” I used to tell my re­flec­tion to stop my body and voice trem­bling, but the lit­tle doubt­ing voice in­side the back of my head would al­ways an­swer: “Yes, but are you good enough?”

Now I know I’m not alone. The ma­jor­ity of women lack self-con­fi­dence, think­ing that they need to be able to do 100 per cent of a job to ap­ply for it, while testos­terone-loaded men be­lieve 60 per cent is good enough. That’s be­cause we have a part of our brain called the an­te­rior cin­gu­late cortex, which is es­sen­tially the worry cen­tre, and guess what? It’s larger in women. Per­haps that’s be­cause we have to jug­gle our fam­i­lies and friends, and all the as­so­ci­ated prob­lems and emo­tions, as well as our ca­reers.

I con­quer mine by chant­ing how great I am. I fig­ure if I say it 100 times a day, maybe just once I’ll be­lieve it. Find out more on this fas­ci­nat­ing topic on page 22 and let me know how you’ve be­come self-con­fi­dent.

Un­til next week!

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