‘My ex gave me his kid­ney’

When Sab­rina Timms split up with her fi­ancé she hoped she could start a new life with­out him – but he ended up sav­ing hers

Friday - - Front Page -

Ly­ing in bed, star­ing at the cur­tains bil­low­ing from the breeze out­side, I sighed. This was the fourth night in a row I was home alone while my part­ner, Dan Bur­dick, had gone out to play with his band.

I glanced at the clock next to the bed: 3am. I was too angry to sleep. “We got en­gaged to spend time to­gether,” I thought, mis­er­ably. “But I’m by my­self again.”

It seemed I spent a lot of time alone lately, and it wasn’t fair. I had a busy job and two chil­dren, Sierra, then 13, and four-year-old Hope, to look after, and I needed Dan, 30, to help. “I thought he was go­ing to be dif­fer­ent,” I mut­tered, sadly. We’d been to­gether seven years and I thought we’d have been mar­ried, and set­tled by now, yet here I was back to be­ing on my own again.

Only now I’d had a glimpse of hap­pi­ness and didn’t want to have a husk of a re­la­tion­ship. I wanted to be with Dan, spend time to­gether and be a fam­ily. What was the point of us be­ing to­gether if we lived sep­a­rate lives? I be­gan to cry, re­al­is­ing our re­la­tion­ship was fall­ing apart. But I needed to save it, some­how. I didn’t want my girls to see us un­happy, or ar­gu­ing. My par­ents had been di­vorced, so had Dan’s. That meant we knew first hand how mis­er­able that made ev­ery­one… We’d been so happy be­fore. I’d met Dan at a party, and even though I was five years older than him and a sin­gle mum to Sierra, he was dif­fer­ent.

Most guys were scared off when they found out I had a daugh­ter. Dan re­spected me. “You’re a strong woman,” he’d said, reach­ing for my hand. “I ad­mire that.”

Dan had taken me out to nice restau­rants and to the movies and of­ten in­cluded Sierra on our dates. He’d play his gui­tar to us when he came round, and his tal­ent and pas­sion for mu­sic were in­spir­ing. He was easy to fall in love with, and so when Dan asked me to marry him, I didn’t hes­i­tate.

But a few months later I dis­cov­ered I was preg­nant with our daugh­ter, Hope, and de­cided to put the wed­ding on hold. When our baby was born in Jan­uary 2007, Dan couldn’t wait to be a full-time dad and stay home with the kids. But he was also try­ing to launch his mu­sic ca­reer and as soon as I walked through the front door he would run off to record with his friends. We had to share a car and

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