FACING UP TO CYBERBULLYING

As children grow up, their desire for privacy at home and with friends can increase. The same applies in their virtual world and to their use of technology and social media. Have you noticed they have a constant and almost obsessive vice-like-grip on their phones or tablet? You may also notice that a child may seem irritable and closed-off in some way, certainly more than usual. This could be the first sign that something may be wrong. Try to monitor their use of technology over a period of a few days, take note of when they are repeatedly picking up and checking their phone, for example. Also judge their response to what they are seeing onscreen, a muted or ashen expression can say a lot to a parent. Instead of questioning them outright about cyberbullying concerns, it’s best to be subtle and discreet.

If their device use is becoming excessive and you’ve noticed other unusual signs such as a new lack of confidence, or lower interest levels in what they usually enjoy, that could be the time to approach and offer support and guidance.

Avoid an overreaction by taking away their technology completely; this not only serves to give them the impression they are in the wrong but further penalises them by removing something important to them.

Instead, try doing something they enjoy, such as crafts, or sports, and steer the conversation towards your concerns – not as a disciplinarian but as a source of help and understanding.

By allowing them to feel at ease, they will also feel they can open up more about the situation – don’t cajole them for answers but offer them the space to talk.

It’s important when it comes to your concerns about cyberbullying to take things slowly, with the awareness to be able to step in more readily if things do escalate.

Social media has become a part of normal life; instead of portraying it to your child as something to be afraid of, you should teach them the pitfalls, how to use it wisely and what you expect of them.