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One day, 10 years ago I was impatiently waiting for a mail so had secured our new laptop in my custody. In spite of my husband requesting it again and again I was not ready to share the laptop with him. This created a big scene between us leaving us with a major fight. I was so furious that moment that I was about to throw away our very first laptop from the terrace. To date, I still don’t know the things I spoke out in anger. My husband just left me on my own and walked away returning safe after few hours after I kept calling him on his mobile. This memory I regret the most and I still am ashamed for my childish behaviour. Positively I started yoga after that to calm myself down which has helped me a lot getting control on my anger and myself. Lamiya Siraj
Regret, we’ve all been there. Whether it’s a test you didn’t prepare for or even a birthday you forgot, it manifests in each person in contrasting ways. I have lost my cool for a few times, although now they seem to be trivial. A few years back, I was a very short tempered girl and used to fuss over the tiniest of disputes. One of these that I regretted badly had to do with me losing a very precious friendship. I was in a friend group that had helped me overcome my fears and we were specifically very beneficial to each other. Over a silly matter, we fought which led to us not speaking to one another for a whole month. Now, we never talk other than the usual greetings here and there. To this day, I regret our conflict and still do anticipate an interaction more than what we have now. Aarya Ajith
The one time I truly regret losing my temper was a few years ago at my wonderful daughter. The issue itself was so silly that in hindsight I wonder why I got so upset. One day, she returned home from school without finishing the food in her lunch box. I’d been telling her to not waste food but that one evening I completely lost my cool and screamed at her for a few minutes. Seeing me so upset, she broke down and told me that her stomach was upset which was why she could not finish her food.
I felt so sad seeing her, and was filled with regret. I promised never to repeat that. Lakshmi Rao
I wish I hadn’t burst out
I rarely if ever lose my temper. But one day, I’d had a tough day at work and was extremely stressed when I returned home. My wife and I had a minor argument over something related to the kids’s studies and in a fit of anger rebuked my wife harshly. She too got upset and we traded some very hurtful barbs at each other before I stormed out of the room. Later I I returned to the room and found her sobbing. My heart broke, because I had never seen her sob ever. To this day I regret the words I spoke. Arshad Ali
It’s in my genes
Having parents who lose their temper easily, I guess it wasn’t that hard for me to follow them. I remember, once in school, a really close friend of mine and I had this really big argument over something small and I lost my temper. I called her all kinds of names and we did not speak for over a week. I regretted it the same day but didn’t have the courage to go apologise; I asked my friend to do it for me and I added on to the apology. My friends mean my second family, but having this bad temper is a really big problem. But regretting the mistake and offering a sincere apology means everything to me. Priyanka Anil
I LEARNT A LESSON
My daughter had just finished her Grade 12 exams and various entrance exams and was awaiting results. Like most mothers I was super stressed about it. One day she had a major argument with me over a petty issue. Unfortunately I lost my temper and yelled at her saying how dare you argue when you did not even work hard enough during your exams.
I regretted it the moment I uttered it, but was too late.
She ended up doing well in her exams and got into the college we wanted. I still regret that moment when I spoke harshly. The only saving grace is now I learnt my lesson and I try to walk away when I am angry rather than speak in anger.