TIPS FOR ENHANCING YOUR LOVE RELATIONSHIPS

WHEN PASSION IS MISSING

1. Arrange for date nights at least once a week where you are left undisturbed by children, work, or other commitments. Have Valentine’s Day weekly.

2. Make your best effort to “look good” keeping in mind your partner’s liking. 3. Be creative, not necessarily expensive, in getting gifts for your partner.

4. Engage in private displays of affection. Hug and kiss each other often.

5. Be generous with honest and loving compliments.

6. Watch romantic movies together.

7. Go on walks together.

8. Keep talking about memories, good times together or anything that both of you enjoy sharing.

WHEN INTIMACY IS MISSING

1. Build up intimacy through communication. Talking and listening are crucial. 2. Engage in physically intimate touching, words of affirmation, encouragement, sharing likes and dislikes, the day’s events and visions or dreams.

3. Ask what the other would like to receive on this special day. 4. Discuss your fears and vulnerabilities. 5. Connect on similar interests, do things that you both enjoy.

6. Focus on being loyal.

WHEN COMMITMENT IS MISSING

1. Share positive experience with your partner 2. Offer physical help: Help out in chores 3. Express your love and tell him/her that you care.

4. Show that you care e.g. get tickets to a game, get flowers to celebrate her promotion or even for no reason, remember important dates that are significant for your partner, offer emotional help.

5. Do acts of service for each other: Keep food ready if your partner is coming home late and tired, make some adjustments to make room for the other.

6. Devote your attention when you are with the person.

7. When together avoid all distractions especially digital intrusion.

8. Spend time talking about reasons for being together, decisions about marriage, children, career, money, responsibilities and old age.

9. Discuss about each other’s future and try to visualise how it would be with or without them.