Individuals must connect with themselves and be creative to beat loneliness
In my opinion, it all comes down to connection. Human beings have a basic need to connect, and there are different ways that this is manifested in our lives. Loneliness depends upon how well or how poorly we have made those connections with ourselves and the entire universe.
To start, people’s first relationship is with themselves; the relation between body, mind and soul. A person who does have a good relationship with himself within, is unlikely to be lonely in any situation. If I’m blissful on the inside, then I can spread that feeling to the people around me. That feeling will flow to my immediate family and my surroundings. Single people can be very happy, as long as they can communicate to themselves.
Additionally, if a person is able to share through creative passion, he or she need not feel lonely. People in the creative field, like writers, poets, painters and musicians, can be single, but they connect to the entire world through their creations and are in harmony with people around them. Even after bad marriages, such individuals continue to derive happiness from within and contribute creatively to the world. The same is true even for nonreactive matters. Giving back to the world through interpersonal transactions or products and services is the best way to deal with loneliness. You may not directly interact with people, but their feedback of acknowledging your contribution to their life will never let you feel lonely.
As for marriage, it is simply another way to find connection and fulfil that human need. If successful, marriage provides a great opportunity to love, trust, care, and share. Furthermore, this union results in a number of relationships - for instance, father, mother, spouse, brother, sister, daughter, son and respective in-laws. Even if there is a distortion in one relationship, a person has others to bank upon, thus the connections multiply. Loneliness is not related to relationship status — it is related to the relationships around us. Society may have preconceived notions, but what matters are our transactions with the universe. Therefore, a person is responsible for his or her own happiness. From Mr Parveen Kumar Managing director, based in Dubai