Why are most children getting everything on a platter?

Game of musical chairs was a chief feature in most birthday parties I had attended while growing up. I don’t remember even one party where we didn’t play that game after the cake-cutting ceremony. The kids used to assemble at the centre of the hall. The host would turn his back and start the tape recorder. We ran around the chairs and as soon as the music stopped, we grabbed a seat nearest to us. It was fun, and also a learning experience. There was competition and we all enjoyed being a part of it. Agility was the key. Every time a child lost, punishments were given: singing or dancing. Some kids took it in their stride while some cried, feeling bad that they couldn’t stay until the end to win the prize.

Over the years, things have changed dramatically. The game is easier now as parents and hosts do not want to see their kids cry. We still have musical chairs, but every time a kid exits the round, he or she is given a gift (of appreciation) for their participation. There are no ‘punishments’.

Everyone is happy. But have we not taken the fun out of the game by doing this? The spirit of competition that prods children to run faster, stay focused and aim for the prize is no more there. Aren’t we giving everything to our kids on a platter? Life is not a bed of roses, and it is through games like these that we prepare our kids. They should learn there is no gain without pain. That’s the essence of life as well, and our children should come to terms with the hardships involved before accomplishments.

Our kids are the future and we ought to make them strong individuals. Simplifying games, and pleasing our kids all the time won’t help.

Let’s get our old games back.