Lebanon’s war children go looking for their roots
Spirited away from the violence as babies, many are now looking for blood relatives
Dida Guigan was only two weeks old when her new parents whisked her out of war-torn Beirut, one of thousands of children adopted overseas during Lebanon’s civil war.
She spent nine years looking for her Lebanese birth mother, only to find her living an hour away from the Swiss village where Dida was raised by her adoptive family.
Many of those adopted abroad during the 15-year civil war in Lebanon have embarked on the same process of tracing their biological parents. But such searches are often complicated by false paperwork and secrets that many would prefer remain buried.
Zeina Allouche, co-founder of the Badael-Alternatives NGO, estimates that at least 10,000 Lebanese children were adopted during the1975 to 1990 war.
International adoption began before the conflict in Lebanon but ballooned during the war, with middlemen and local officials aiding the process by producing false paperwork, often for a fee.
“It was easy,” Ms Allouche said. “It was a gang time – no laws, no safety, and there was a kind of complicity because people thought this was a good way to save kids.”
Ms Guigan’s adoptive parents collected her in 1984 and she grew up mostly in Switzerland, knowing she was adopted but with no information on her birth family. When she was 18, her adoptive parents gave her a file including a “certificate of abandonment” from her birth mother.
“This is where I got very lucky – her real name was on it,” she said.
It was a lead, and more than many adoptees begin with, but it still took Ms Guigan nine years, several trips to Beirut, and the help of a Lebanese television crew to find her mother.
“I really didn’t believe that this could still be possible in this life,” she said.
“I did a lot of internal work to prepare myself for the worst. So meeting her and knowing she’s alive was one of the most beautiful experiences I’ve had.”
Sophie (not her real name) was adopted by a couple living in France in 1966, before the war, and was in her 40s when she began her search.
“I felt the need to fill a profound void, to know the story of my birth,” she said.
Armed with her mother’s name, she went to Lebanon to research her roots but met with resistance. “People told
I feel like there’s a blood connection that might be unbreakable. I would love to meet the person who gave birth to me
me, ‘You already have a family there. You were lucky to leave here’,” she said.
“They didn’t understand why I was looking and it seems to me the subject remains delicate and taboo in Lebanon.”
Ms Allouche said many adoptees have had similar responses. Some were completely rejected by birth families who wanted to avoid any hint of scandal.
Badael tries to help in various ways, such as listing online any fragments of identifying information and offering advice on search methods, such as DNA analysis.
That was how Sophie finally found her biological mother – DNA tests with several online companies uncovered a first cousin, who she searched for on Facebook. That led her to another first cousin who was “completely aware of my existence”, she said.
“His father, my uncle, had helped my mother search for me after my birth and in the years that followed.”
She learnt that her mother had emigrated to Australia and they are now communicating through Sophie’s half-sister. “I’m relieved and so happy to have finally found her,” she said.
She has become a strong proponent of DNA analysis and hopes more birth mothers seeking their children begin using it.
Many wartime adoptions were made possible by diaspora Lebanese. Terri’s adoptive parents turned to a colleague whose mother was living in Lebanon. “They asked, and she just miraculously found a baby waiting,” he said.
Ten-month-old Terri left Lebanon in 1988, and as a child often wondered about his birth and adoption.
“I didn’t know what a war was, so I just imagined a big room full of people fighting, and this baby on the floor.”
He is desperate to trace his biological mother but has few leads, apart from a paper saying he was abandoned outside the Sayidet Al Maunat hospital in Byblos, north of Beirut.
A trip to Lebanon proved fruitless, but tests through the DNA analysis site 23andme revealed a first cousin.
“That’s the closest blood relative I’ve heard of. But he’s not really interested in giving me information,” Terri said.
His search is complicated by the fact that he is transgender. He was born female but became male in his 20s.
Badael has registered 2,700 children adopted from Lebanon in its database, and a handful of mothers seeking their children.
Ms Allouche said adoptions decreased after the war in Lebanon ended, but the numbers are rising again with the conflict in neighbouring Syria.
“I was contacted personally because they thought we could facilitate adoption of Syrian refugees,” she said.
She expects Syrians adopted during the war in their country will one day undertake the same search as Terri, who still hopes to find his birth mother.
“I feel like there’s a blood connection that might be unbreakable. I would really love to meet the person who gave birth to me,” he said. “It would be some kind of closure.”