It’s important for couples to have a conversation about their credit scores

Nobody thinks that discussing credit scores is a good way to spend quality time with their partner.

But such conversations can provide important clues about your beloved’s history with money and what your financial future together could look like.

Why do credit scores matter? And are they enough to make or break a relationship?

Credit scores can determine whether you and your significant other are approved for loans, what kind of interest rates you will get and how much you may have to put down for a utility deposit.

“Having good credit is definitely important for affordability for many different things, like when it comes to purchasing a car or applying for an apartment or a mortgage,” says Shamica Joseph, former financial adviser at GreenPath, a non-profit credit counselling agency.

Spouses do not merge credit scores when they get married. However, if you plan to combine or open credit accounts together, regardless of marital status, your partner’s behaviour on those accounts can shift your scores.

The same is true if one of you becomes an authorised user or co-signer for the other.

Low scores can prevent you and your partner’s access to certain products and services, or make them more expensive.

“Even if you weren’t planning on merging finances, it’s still a good idea to make sure that your credit score is where you want it to be for affordability purposes, for not just you but your partner,” Ms Joseph says.

Many factors affect credit scores, mainly payment history and how much credit you use. If your partner has a score of 700 – in the “good” range on the standard 300 to 850 scale – they probably pay their bills on time and do not overspend.

A 600 score, typically in the “bad” range, is a sign that the opposite is true.

But do not rush to judgment. While numbers are revealing, context matters.

A significant other’s low credit score could be the result of an unexpected medical bill, job loss or identity theft.

“While it doesn’t change the fact they still have to come back and repair the credit, the reasons might be a little less alarming or challenging for a partner to learn rather than, ‘Yes, I went ahead and spent willy-nilly. I took out extra credit cards. I defaulted’,” says Debra Kaplan, author and licensed professional counsellor in Arizona.

A low score does not have to be a deal-breaker, even if it is due to irresponsibility. “If your partner has previously declared bankruptcy or if they have a less than optimal credit score, then a common myth around that is that they may not be a good fit for a relationship or marriage,” Ms Joseph says.

“That’s not necessarily true, because you will have the opportunity to work on improving your finances together.”

Ask your loved one to explain what might be dragging their number down and what steps they will take to address it. Similarly, just because a person has a great score does not mean they have a handle on every aspect of their financial life.

Maybe they are not saving for retirement, or at all for that matter. Some details, including income and savings account balances, are not reflected in credit scores. You will learn much more by getting together to discuss your finances as a whole.

But it is worth bringing up the topic as a relationship develops, ideally before making any major decisions such as moving in together.

Ms Joseph suggests talking about spending habits, budgeting, income, debt and any potential or past bankruptcies.

If your partner shuts down the conversation, that could be cause for concern.

“The issue doesn’t get any easier to discuss. In fact, it becomes more complicated. And it could be indicative of avoidance of dealing with tough situations,” Ms Kaplan says. “That’s not a great way to start a trusting, healthy, committed, intimate relationship.”

It can provide clues about your beloved’s history with money and what your financial future together could look like