What’s happened to us?

I’ve been with my lovely husband for 22 years. We have two gorgeous kids and, on the surface of it, a great life. But we haven’t slept together for almost a year. He doesn’t seem bothered about it, but our lack of intimacy in the

bedroom is really starting to get me down. I don’t even know how to talk about it, I feel embarrassed that we’re in this situation. But I know we need to fix it, because I can’t be married to someone who just feels like a friend. Gillian, Hertfordshire

Gillian, while I’m really pleased the rest of your life is smooth, we both agree this isn’t an ideal situation. It’s something you need to address with your husband, as it’s clearly causing you angst. You need to think about why your sex life has dwindled. I think it would be good for you both to speak to a marriage counsellor – you may find the answer.