Should we divorce?

I’ve been divorced twice, and now I’m worried that my third marriage is on the rocks after four years. I have two teenage daughters, one from each marriage, and I know how difficult the divorces have been for both girls. It sounds silly but, though I feel things aren’t going to work, the thought of admitting defeat yet again fills with me with embarrassment. Also, the thought of dragging my kids through yet another divorce makes me feel terrible. I’m 62 – maybe I should just stay put. It might be easier all round. Shannon, Surrey

There seems to be rather a lot of doubt in your letter. ‘Shall I or shan’t I divorce?’ It’s such a huge decision. If you really don’t know, I would caution against any rash decisions. You should stay put for a while, try to improve things, then sit back and take a look at the situation again. If, after that time, you decide it’s definitely not working despite your renewed efforts, then perhaps it is time to admit defeat. I always believe that ‘something’ will guide you and give you the answer in the end. Good luck.