Dear Vanessa

that I’m in tune with the ’ve been convinced my whole life on psychic advice for spiritual world. I’ve relied heavily exactly healthy, I can’t years – and though I know it’s not back, I’ve realised that help myself. Having had time to look for me never happened. the majority of what was predicted would happen, that I’ve lived my life hoping something there is something out never did. I stand by the fact that

But is this obsession there other than just our life on earth. problem? with mediums stemming from a deeper

IClaire, West Midlands

MANDY SAYS: you’ve always felt it necessary I’m immediately drawn to wonder why to something else? Making to hand responsibility for your life over you can’t control everything choices for yourself and accepting that independent life – but for some can be such an exciting part of a happy, opportunity. Sadly, some reason you seem to have side-stepped this make taking responsibility people’s experiences of life (or childhood) either to cope with extremely hard for them, as they feel unable self-doubt – so they look for uncertainty, or experience high levels of

This creates a negative certainty and answers outside of themselves. you decide not to take cycle of dependence, because every time you reinforce the pattern responsibility and farm your decision out,

You also miss out on learning of poor self-esteem: ‘I can’t handle me.’ grow in personal confidence. opportunities, so limit how much you can where this pattern may Therapy can certainly help you understand you were ever taught to learn have come from, perhaps by exploring if to stand firmly in your own through taking risks? It can also help you because it’s all you really shoes, willing to live your life your way – not seek to make therapy have. However, a note of caution: you should easy for you to shift your your new psychic advice, as it would be issue. Thus, I’d suggest you err dependence and not deal with the core or solution-based approach, away from, e.g. CBT, as it can be an advice with psychodynamic or even but instead work with a psychotherapist explorative. And give psychoanalytic training, as this will be more to start taking responsibility yourself time, as it can feel overwhelming

So take it one step at a time. for yourself if you haven’t had practice. life hoping and waiting, It feels sad to hear that you’ve spent your the driving seat and enjoy the so I do think it’s time for you to get into

Please be reassured, too, ride, and therapy is a good place to start. a spiritual awakening in it’s not uncommon for people to experience curious relationship with therapy, through developing a loving and you’re themselves. Try it, it might be just what looking for!

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