Plan ahead for summer with family

WE KNOW already the summer holidays are going to look very different this year. For many families, there are going to be challenges to overcome.

For families with separated and divorced parents, these may feel insurmountable. Planning and communication issues can be tricky enough but, during a pandemic, they may seem even more difficult to navigate.

As a family law specialist, I work with many clients who struggle to agree their summer plans with the other parent.

I help to negotiate arrangements between them around the ‘virtual’ table or take unresolved disputes to the family court for a determination.

To help ensure your summer isn’t overshadowed by family disputes, the following do’s and don’ts can help make a difference ....

Do make plans as early as possible to avoid last-minute clashes. If you commit to something make sure it is followed through. Children need their parents to make decisions and to stick to them.

Do be positive about your children spending time with the other parent. Let them know it is OK that they are going away with mum/dad and that you will also be OK whilst they are away. It is best for children when both parents can be supportive of their contact with the other parent.

Don’t talk to each other through the children. It might be tempting to relay information through them, but being the messenger between households is a burden a child should not have to bear.

Don’t hesitate to seek help and advice from a family law specialist if you are encountering any family issues. Involving a lawyer does not automatically mean you are starting a court battle. It does mean you will be supported to find a solution that works for you and your family.

Rayner Grice is a Partner and Head of the Birmingham Family Team at

Clarke Willmott