Mum-of-three: “I’m divorcing my husband – so we can ‘marry’ another woman”

Polyamorous couple cristina and benno kaiser are tying the knot with their girlfriend sierra to celebrate their love

When Cristina and Benno Kaiser exchanged wedding vows, they believed it was forever.

But 12 years later, the parents of three are choosing to divorce, despite still being in love, so they can “marry” another woman, Sierra Kuntz.

Cristina, 31, and Benno, 37 – who have three children together – are in a polyamorous relationship with their lover Sierra, 21.

The trio live and sleep together – and are having a commitment ceremony this year to cement their bond.

Cristina, from Las Vegas, says: “Benno, Sierra and I are really happy together. Benno and I want to marry Sierra to show how much we love her. Polyamorous marriages aren’t legally recognised, so we decided I’d marry her in a register office first to make it official. Then we’ll all have a joint ceremony later in the year, so Benno feels included.”

INSTANT ATTRACTION

She adds: “It’ll strengthen my relationship with Benno, and the marriage will give Sierra parental rights to our children. Benno is on their birth certificates, so he’ll keep his.”

“I’m so happy we’re getting married. It shows how committed we are.”

Cristina and Benno – who are both legal assistants – met in 2005 when they were working for the police force. They had an immediate connection and began dating.

After a whirlwind four-month romance, they married and – a year on – had Isaiah, now 12, then later Rebecca, seven, and Brianna, six.

But bisexual Cristina, who previously dated women, began to feel something was missing.

She says: “It was my idea to open up the marriage. I’m attracted to women and the absence of that led to me feeling unfulfilled sexually. Luckily, Benno is very open-minded and agreed to try it.”

Benno and Cristina dated a couple of women before Cristina met Sierra in May 2015.

Cristina says: “Sierra worked in the pet store and she was beautiful and bubbly. We got chatting and I asked her on a date. On our first date in a bar I was upfront about the situation. I didn’t know if it’d put her off, but she seemed interested. She’s also bisexual and has dated men and women.”

She adds: “After two dates, Benno joined us and we all hit it off. There was chemistry between us and, several dates later, we all had sex while the children were away at the grandparents. It was amazing.”

UNIQUE SET-UP

The trio started spending lots of time together and within a month, Sierra moved in. Cristina says: “It made sense. There was no jealousy – we’re just happy. We talked to the children, who were then eleven, six and five, and explained we wanted to bring someone into our family. They knew Sierra from the pet store and liked her, so they accepted it fairly easily.”

Now Sierra looks after the children while Benno and Cristina go to work. Cristina says: “Every night the three of us share the same bed and our sex life is very passionate.”

“We go on dates – we’re big foodies and love trying different restaurants. Sometimes we get

‘we share the same bed – our sex life is passionate’

funny looks, but we don’t care.”

And although the three lovers insist there’s no jealousy, they do go through some rough patches like most relationships.

Cristina says: “Sometimes we miscommunicate, but we always work through it. Benno and I are really active and always on the go, but Sierra needs lots of sleep, which can be frustrating.”

Fortunately, their families and friends are all supportive. And last year, Benno and Cristina made the unusual decision to get divorced to strengthen their relationship with Sierra.

Cristina explains: “The kids love Sierra. We wanted her to feel more included so I’m going to marry her to make things official, then we’ll all have a bigger ceremony in the autumn to celebrate our love.

WEDDING PLANS

“Benno was happy for me to be the one to marry Sierra as it means she can have legal rights over the children and it doesn’t alter our commitment to each other. We’re hoping the divorce will be finalised soon.”

The trio have no plans to involve anyone else in their relationship, but hope to have another baby soon.

Cristina adds: “Sierra can’t wait to have a baby and I’ll be happy to have another addition to our family. Polyamory might not be for everyone, but for us life is pretty much perfect.”