HOW TO LEARN TO LOVE THE REAL YOU

We can all go through periods of low self-esteem, but that can damage relationships. It’s time to rewrite the script...

It’s easy to look in I the mirror and feel disappointed. In the past five years, I too have found myself fixating on certain areas of my face, then overthinking how I will look in another 10 years. I felt so anxious, I even visited a plastic surgeon. He told me he wouldn’t operate because it was far too early for me to consider surgery at the age of 44. That was the wake-up call I needed to work on my attitude towards my body.

There is no point eroding your self-esteem thinking you should look like women half your age. Instead, change your role models! I’m starting to accept that jowls are on their way and the cellulite is here to stay, but that is perfectly normal. I’ve also made changes that make me feel more positive about my body. Hot yoga helps me to put things into perspective, and reading about women who’ve changed the world using their voices and brains makes me feel empowered. I accept my husband’s compliments, and I tell myself every day that I’m good enough, imperfections and all.

It makes me sad when women tell me they are afraid to let people see them without make-up on, or only have sex with the lights off. Your partner wants sex with you because he loves your body. Rather than concentrating on your imperfections, accept that he sees the best of you. Also, remember your man is also ageing, and has his own flaws.

We can only have a fantastic, inspiring, joyful life with those around us by firstly loving ourselves. Let’s start celebrating our bodies just the way they are.