‘It gave us the jolt we both badly needed’

Closer (UK) - - Talking Point -

Sarah Sim­monds, 35, from East York­shire, was six months preg­nant with their fourth child when she dis­cov­ered her IT con­sul­tant hus­band Mark, 50, was cheat­ing. As­ton­ish­ingly, Sarah, who works in re­tail, not only for­gave him, but they now have a fifth child.

She says, “Four years ago, an email popped up on my hus­band’s com­puter while I was on it from a woman ask­ing if he ‘was around tonight.’ I felt sick, and fur­ther search­ing showed that he’d joined up to an ex­tra-mar­i­tal af­fairs web­site.

“I con­fronted him and he con­fessed, ex­plain­ing he’d seen her twice. I was six months preg­nant and couldn’t imag­ine how I’d cope alone, so I al­lowed him to stay, but we couldn’t share a room as I was too hurt. He ex­plained he’d felt ne­glected and that our en­ergy was taken up by the chil­dren. He said he’d done it for the at­ten­tion. It hurt, but there was truth in what he said.

“It took two years to for­give Mark, but I loved him. The af­fair re­ally did help us, as it made us both more aware of our re­la­tion­ship. We now make a huge ef­fort to make time for each other. The af­fair gave us the jolt we needed, oth­er­wise we might have car­ried on drift­ing apart. At first I wor­ried it could hap­pen again, but I made a con­scious de­ci­sion to for­give him.”

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