Closer (UK) - - Life Balance -

Closer’s in­trepid dater, Re­becca Twomey, per­forms a cull of her dat­ing apps but hadn’t an­tic­i­pated what would hap­pen next (and it should in­spire you too…)

t was af­ter I mes­sag­ing 40 men on Bum­ble (the dat­ing app where women make the first move by ini­ti­at­ing the con­ver­sa­tion) and get­ting just a hand­ful of replies that I reached for the delete but­ton.

The dat­ing land­scape is now so mad that no one knows what’s go­ing on, be it ghost­ing, bench­ing or flatlin­ing. OK, I made the last one up, but it’s got so in­sane it prob­a­bly will be a dat­ing term soon enough.

With that thought, I did some­thing rad­i­cal and deleted my dat­ing apps. Yes, all of them. It felt re­fresh­ing and free­ing not to feel as if I should be swip­ing, mes­sag­ing or dat­ing – even though my chances of meet­ing some­one de­pleted ten­fold. I just wanted a break.

But what I thought I needed wasn’t what Cupid had in store.

Just a few days af­ter I de­ac­ti­vated my Bum­ble ac­count, I re­ceived an

un­ex­pected What­sapp mes­sage from a guy I met two years ago but who I’d never for­got­ten. At the time I wasn’t in a good place and he’d just come out of some­thing se­ri­ous so it wasn’t right to pur­sue things.

Now it ap­pears we’re both in a good frame of mind be­cause we went on an amaz­ing date last week. He made me laugh and feel just as alive and ex­cited as I did that one Satur­day af­ter­noon we met. I al­ways did, and still do, hate it when peo­ple tell me ro­mance will hap­pen when I stop look­ing.

But maybe there’s a po­ten­tial for it to be­gin once you delete your apps…

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