Sev­eral celebs have got en­gaged within weeks or even days of meet­ing. Emma says a solid base is cru­cial to make it last

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Bol­ly­wood star B Priyanka Cho­pra and singer Nick Jonas got en­gaged af­ter a few months of dat­ing; CBB star Rox­anne Pal­lett said “yes” just a week af­ter meet­ing steel­worker Lee Wal­ton; and Caro­line Flack called off her en­gage­ment to re­al­ity star An­drew Brady af­ter a three­month whirl­wind ro­mance.

When it comes to love, there are no rules or “nor­mal” time frames, but there are cer­tain fac­tors to al­ways bear in mind. When we start a re­la­tion­ship, we are on our best be­hav­iour, only want­ing our new part­ner to see our most flat­ter­ing side, shield­ing them from our less per­fect traits. This hon­ey­moon pe­riod isn’t a re­al­is­tic re­flec­tion of life, and once the ini­tial ex­cite­ment wanes, peo­ple’s true selves emerge. Learn­ing plenty about your part­ner be­fore tak­ing any big step is worth­while; what are their virtues and vices, hopes and dreams, how do they deal with con­flict and sad­ness, do they get on with your friends and fam­ily? Get­ting to know your part­ner can only strengthen your bond.

You should never feel pres­sured to get en­gaged. Even if all your friends are set­tling down, do what feels right for you. If you want to take it slowly, do. The right part­ner will ac­cept that. If you both feel ready to make the com­mit­ment, that’s OK, too. Noth­ing is set in stone and an en­gage­ment can be called off if you re­alise you’ve made a mis­take. Loved ones will help you pick up the pieces and you’ll have learned valu­able lessons. Don’t rush, and be sure.

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