NO: ‘It took me a decade to re­cover, I was dev­as­tated’

Laura Jane Wil­liams, 32, from Der­byshire, wrote her book Be­com­ing about her heart­break af­ter an ex started dat­ing one of her close friends.

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She says, “It took me the best part of a decade to get over my ex-boyfriend get­ting to­gether with a close friend of mine. He was my first love, we grew up to­gether and dated se­ri­ously un­til I was 23. It was dev­as­tat­ing enough when he split up with me – we were both in floods of tears – but it was made much worse when I dis­cov­ered he was dat­ing one of my friends. I found out through a mu­tual friend, who had seen them walk­ing arm-in- arm. I just felt so hu­mil­i­ated. The girl in ques­tion had been a good friend of mine – we’d gone to dance classes to­gether and as she didn’t have a car, I’d give her lifts. We were close and it felt like a huge be­trayal when she hooked up with my ex, es­pe­cially as she’d emailed me to tell me how sorry she was when she heard we’d split. I even tried to call her, but she wouldn’t an­swer her phone.

“I couldn’t help but feel there’d been an over­lap be­tween us – even if not phys­i­cally, then emo­tion­ally. I will never know though if that’s true. I do know they are still to­gether and mar­ried and I can hon­estly say I wish them well – though it took a while. I’m hap­pily sin­gle by choice, though I have had re­la­tion­ships since.

“I don’t think you should ever date a friend’s ex – ei­ther he broke up with her, and she’s up­set, so why add to her dev­as­ta­tion? Or she split up with him, in which case why take her sloppy sec­onds? There are plenty of other men out there – we must al­ways re­mem­ber to put sis­ters be­fore mis­ters!”

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