WHY SETTING COUPLE GOALS IMPROVES SEX

An amazing life between the sheets starts outside the bedroom. Emma explains why making plans together improves everything

Many couples have therapy because they’ve stopped playing on the same team. Small daily resentments accumulate to become big problems, and before you know it, you’re arguing about anything and everything – and your sex will suffer, too. That’s why it’s so important for you and your partner to be on the same page when it comes to your relationship – what you both want, need, and desire from one another. In research, 93 per cent of people who said they had “incredible” sex set regular goals for themselves. These goals included health and fitness, sex, money, and relationships.

Nearly half said the goals they set were directly about sex, addressing aspects such as how often they have it, trying new positions, or attempting to be more “kinky”, as well as more emotional aims, like sharing and being more open. Tempted to try? First, individually create a list of priorities you believe you need to work on so that your relationship can thrive. Having both expressed hopes, dreams and concerns to one another, use these to form the basis of your goals. Agree short-, mediumand long-term aims that cover intimate, emotional, social and physical spaces. These can be as simple as aiming to be intimate three times a week (not necessarily sex, but intimacy), making a home-cooked meal for each other twice a week, and going out as a couple each weekend, whether for a walk, a coffee or dinner. You truly will be futureproofing your relationship.