WHY AFFECTION IS KEY TO OUR HAPPINESS LEVELS

The less physical contact we have in our relationships, the less satisfied we are. With the world feeling uncertain, Emma says hugs and kisses can make a big difference to mood

Our DNA is 98.8 per cent the same as chimps, and if you have ever watched a David Attenborough documentary, you will have noticed how tactile they are. Primates spend huge portions of their days grooming, stroking, cuddling and playing. This bonds their community, making them feel connected and happy individually and as a group. We, too, need non-sexual affection to feel a sense of belonging and connectedness.

BE MORE TACTILE

Research has shown that the more routine non-sexual affection, like hugging and hand holding, in your relationship, the higher your satisfaction will be. With the government advising us to stay away from anyone we don’t share a home or bubble with, it has been hard not to become wary of physical contact. However, this is pretty catastrophic for your mental and physical wellbeing, so it’s time to increase affection with those you can be close with.

HUG YOUR PARTNER HELLO AND GOODBYE

When we receive kisses and cuddles, we release chemicals serotonin, oxytocin and dopamine, which help regulate the stress hormone cortisol. That’s important, as stress lowers immunity and contributes to a whole host of physical issues, including heart disease and strokes. In your intimate relationship, make extra effort. Go to bed earlier and spend time cuddling. At mealtimes, sit next to each other so you’re physically close. Kiss hello and goodbye whenever you separate, and try to increase the number of hugs when you are together. With a close friend or two, check how they feel about a hug hello and goodbye – while wearing a mask.

USE YOUR BUBBLE

If you have been through lockdown alone, you may have felt adversely affected by a lack of physical touch, and Zoom calls are no replacement. Failing to receive hugs or even a handshake can increase anxiety and a lower your mood. So, now you can “bubble up” with another household, try to make up for the lack of touch of late and enjoy that affection again.