HOW TO HANDLE SULKING AND TANTRUMS AT HOME

Kids have found life especially tough and, as a result, their behaviour may be challenging at times. Emma advises how to help with compassion…

Everyone recognises how difficult the past year has been for kids, and they will be acting out in different ways. Teens may be withdrawn, demotivated, emotional and sleeping more than usual. They are struggling and require compassion, structure, and hope.

PLAN THEIR DAYS

As the return to school approaches, help older kids to formulate a daily routine, making sure they get up early enough to practise self-care by having a shower and eating a nutritious breakfast. Create a space where they can do their school work and make sure they schedule regular breaks to eat, exercise, relax, and chat to their friends. Get them involved with chores – you can do these together while listening to uplifting music of their choice. Try to get out for a walk with them daily, if you’re able to, as it can allow your child to open up about feelings without being put on the spot. And keep this going even when they are back at school, to help with the transition. Remind them that this difficult time will pass, and that you will make sure you are all OK in the end. Your reassurance carries weight because they trust you. Remind them that their feelings are natural and that you understand how difficult life has been.

KNOW IT’S NORMAL

Younger children are likely to act out differently, by throwing tantrums, refusing to eat, getting into squabbles with siblings, or even regressing to a previous developmental stage. All of these things can feel distressing to witness, but try to be rational. Your child is reacting normally to a strange situation.

AVOID SHOUTING

Meet their emotions with compassion, however frustrating their behaviour.

Avoid shouting, as this will have little impact on the way they act, and will only frustrate and upset you. Instead, provide lots of active play outside, which will help them burn off their energy, and instigate family activities, such as games, to anchor their feeling of belonging. Be patient with your kids. They didn’t choose this and their reactions are understandable, and hopefully soon lockdowns will be a thing of the past.