Caprice: “An orgasm a day keeps the doctor away!”
After sparking debate recently with her comments on marital sex, supermodel Caprice Bourret now tells Closer what she thinks of the backlash – and presenter Vanessa Feltz shares her view on the subject
Model and businesswoman Caprice Bourret caused outrage recently when she urged heterosexual women to “take one for the team” and to have sex with their husbands regularly – even when they don’t want to.
The 49 year old argued that the secret to her successful marriage to financier Ty Comfort was sacrificing “just 10 minutes of [her] life” to attend to his sexual desires. She also described men as “simple creatures” who just need their wives to shower them with compliments, give them sex and knock up a good meal.
Her controversial marriage tips have understandably left many women across the country seething, with columnist Ulrika Jonsson accusing Caprice of “blurring the lines of consent”, adding that she “felt sorry” for the underwear entrepreneur for her “cringe-inducing” view of gender roles within a marriage.
ANTIQUATED VIEW
Ulrika wrote, “There I was thinking women had forged a way forward over these past, equality-inducing decades... I feel embarrassed for women like Caprice who still have such an antiquated view of gender-typical roles in a relationship.”
Caprice hit back, telling Ulrika, “Don’t get your knickers in a twist, love”, claiming the reward for working at her marriage was “empowerment”.
But as divorce rates are soaring – with one British law firm citing a rise of 122 per cent in divorce enquiries, partly due to the strain of multiple lockdowns – others have celebrated Caprice’s relationship as “an inspiration”, while some male followers have lamented that Ty is a “very lucky man”.
Now Caprice exclusively tells Closer that she stands by her comments – insisting that regular sex with their husbands makes women healthier and happier.
She says, “Believe me – I really do know how many women feel. You’ve had a long day, then you climb into bed and your man is reaching over – and he is as randy as heck. It’s very tempting to say, ‘Honey, I just want to sleep,’ but at that point, what’s a couple of minutes of your life? Just be intimate with him – and you may love it!”
WOMAN’S WOMAN
“My comments have been misconstrued as negative towards women, but I’m a woman’s woman. I love empowering other women and the very first step is not to play the victim and moan about your life – do something about it.”
Many have compared Caprice’s comments to Queen Victoria’s advice to her daughter to “lie back and think of England” when hearing her husband’s footsteps at the bedroom door, but Caprice says this couldn’t be further from the truth. She believes sex isn’t anti-feminist and that women can reap more rewards than men by opting for a quickie.
The mum of two – who shares sevenyear-old boys, Jax and Jett, with husbandof-two-years Ty – adds, “Do you know how great it is for your own health to have an orgasm? Get into it, ladies – enjoy it. If you’re just not in the mood, have a headache or are stressed from a long day, you will find that fades away with a good, old-fashioned orgasm. It’s a fantastic stress reliever and it’s great for our health – an orgasm a day keeps the doctor away!
“If men are getting regular sex, they’re not moving on – they’re happy campers! They listen more, they’re more affectionate, your bond is greater and it’s fun! It is a win-win situation.”
And while Caprice, 49, reveals that she and Ty, 55, are “at it like rabbits” and have sex at least three times a week, she adds that Ty knows when not to initiate sex – such as when she’s unwell.
CONSTANT WORK
She also admits that their marriage has endured its share of ups and downs, but she’s keen to share the secrets behind her successful partnership.
“I come from a place of experience, which is why I love to talk about it. Not many marriages are completely plain sailing and there was a point in my life when I thought, ‘OK, I need to change things up’. So instead of not doing anything about it, I took responsibility, because I wanted better for
myself, my family and my relationship.
“After 10 years of being with my husband, I love him and fancy him more today than those early honeymoon days. Relationships are constant work, but I realised the more I put into it, the more I got out. Us two are our family’s glue and we need to be a team – and being part of a great team makes me feel satisfied as a woman, as a mum, as a wife, and as a businesswoman.
“If you don’t believe me, just try it. It makes a happier and healthier relationship, with better communication and intimacy. Get out the porn, talk dirty, buy something to wear that makes you feel sexy and get your groove on! When my husband looks at me like he wants to rip my clothes off, it’s empowering – and that is exactly how it should be!”
By Lauren Hill-Roger