LET KIDS DO THINGS FOR THEMSELVES

It’s tempting to do everything for your children, from tidying their rooms to making their lunches, but it’s good for them to be independent

From an early age, I taught my sons to make easy meals and to experiment in the kitchen, even though the end result was often inedible. I believe that life is better without fear, so I wanted to instil confidence in them. Ask yourself, when you feel the urge to do things for your kids – why? Is it that they can’t cook, clean or look after themselves, or is it that they fall short of your standards? Allowing your children to develop life skills is one of the most powerful gifts you can give them. Yes, they will make a mess preparing beans on toast, but rather than getting cross, focus on the fact that they successfully made a meal. As kids get older, give them responsibilities and draw up a weekly schedule.

This means that children stay focused and build their life skills constantly. My teenage boys now each cook us a family meal once a week, which I am really proud of. It is deeply satisfying seeing them grow in independence. No matter how little your children are, you can start the process. Reward them for tidying their toys, celebrate the weird food combos they create, and encourage them to help you around the house so they feel like a responsible and appreciated member of the family. I genuinely believe that giving my kids responsibilities and freedom is why they have grown into compassionate, confident people. They have always been the first on the dance floor and the last to leave, because they were taught very early on that life is for living fully and fearlessly.