PLAYER OR STAYER

Can 10 years change your ex?

I’d seen Stefan around at college and thought he had a really nice smile and great skin. Plus, he was tall. I like tall guys. I agreed to let him take me out after he wrote on my Bebo page. It was my first proper date, and I felt so sophisticated. We were only 16, but went up to the bar at TGI Friday’s to order wine and were so excited when they served us. Afterwards he walked me to Waterloo station and we shared our first kiss. Instantly there was something there, and he was my official boyfriend straight away.

Shortly after our date we finished college for the summer. We’d spend every day together. I’d go to his house or he’d come to mine. We’d just eat takeaways, watch films and talk about our lives. I thought we’d be together forever.

Then he became distant, so after eight months I broke up with him – we just weren’t spending enough time together. He was quite persistent about staying in contact – he’d constantly text me until I replied. I’d agree to see him, we’d go on a couple of dates, then it would just fizzle out again. This happened a lot until I realised it was going nowhere.

It’s been 10 years since we first met and I couldn’t wait to see him again. I thought it would be fun and it was. Stefan now just looks like a more polished version of his teenage self. His personality is the same – he’s always been a poser, so it’s funny he’s a model now.

I admit I did get a bit tipsy so we had a few kisses. He said he wanted to get back together, but he doesn’t mean it. I only hear from him when he’s single. He just sees me as a time filler.