FIRST LOVE *Has a lit­tle cry*

Phoebe, 24, is a travel blog­ger from Not­ting­hamshire

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My first thought when I met Tom was that he was badly dressed. He was wear­ing a pat­terned pink T-shirt, and I said, “You’ve never had a girl­friend, have you?” He re­sponded with a joke and that’s when I re­alised how funny he was. Noth­ing hap­pened for a while, but we were in the same friend­ship group, so I saw him a lot. Then, one night, I went to his and ev­ery­thing changed.

Five months later, I flew to Malaysia for a long hol­i­day, but be­came re­ally ill and had to re­turn home. The day I got back, Tom drove to see me, and from then, we were of­fi­cial.

Af­ter we grad­u­ated, we worked in dif­fer­ent cities. Then Tom got a job in Lon­don, where I was liv­ing – we were so ex­cited to fi­nally be in the same place. But Tom’s em­ployer de­layed his start date for a year, so he de­cided to travel to Asia and Dubai, while I stayed in the UK. Things re­turned to nor­mal when he got back, but a few months later, I chal­lenged my­self to be­come the sec­ond woman ever to travel to ev­ery coun­try. Tom was ex­cited for me, but we had to make a de­ci­sion. He told me that it was up­set­ting him too much be­ing to­gether, know­ing that I was go­ing away for so long. That was two years ago, and we haven’t seen each other since – un­til now.

The date was the last time I’ll see Tom be­fore I go away for my around-the-world trip, but I loved hear­ing about how well he’s do­ing, and I’ve never not fan­cied him.

If things were dif­fer­ent, we might still be to­gether, but I know Tom did me a favour – I’m so fo­cused on my project now, and I don’t think I would be if he hadn’t made that de­ci­sion for us.

Tom at Phoebe and in 2013 univer­sity

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