Happy Mondays

Leading life and happiness coach

TODAY is the oldest each of us has ever been and the youngest we will ever be again. Quite a sobering thought, isn’t it? We are so busy looking ahead or looking back that we forget where we are right now. We forget that we have come a long way and have accrued knowledge and wisdom that ha ve become the blueprint for our lives.

Sometimes we have limiting or fear - based beliefs which keep us small or which corrupt our thinking like a virus in our software. Thoughts such as “it’s too late for me to learn” or “it’s all right for them, they’re lucky” or “I will probably fail” are just a few of the fault lines that zip through our crani a at regular intervals.

There is less time than you think to get on with having a life you love. If it helps why not write your own User’s Manual Of Life? When you get that you have everything within you to have a life you love, the success you want and the joy you desire, new pathways open up.

There are some fundamental truths you will have learned and which serve you well in your life so far. Jot them down and use them to inspire yourself to take on new challenges and create possibilities.

Here I share a few of my life hacks which I know are fundamental truths and a good guide for living.

Fear kills more dreams than anything else. Dreams need nurturing with belief and hope. Don’t let fear be the author of your future.

Always try again. Tenacity and resilience are often more valuable than originality and intelligence.

The unhappiest people are those who care more about what other people think and drown out their own inner voice. People have their own lives to lead and you have yours. What they think is none of your business.

Find joy in the day to day. Seek things that make your heart sing – birdsong, a lovely coffee, a good book, the smell of a rose, toast, the breeze on your face – it’s the small things that can bring bliss.

Concentrate on what you love and what you have not, what you hate and are without. What we focus on expands and that applies to the good and bad.

Embrace the impermanence of life. Circumstances, feelings and people change. Goalposts move, it’s not always fair and opportunities come and go. It can be both sad and hopeful as new times open up. Learn to roll with the change.

Don’t listen to the doom mongers. People who try to downplay your dreams are telling their own story not yours.

Let your dreams inspire you, not make you feel you are falling short. Our expectations of life and others can stop us loving what is.

We learn all the time or we cling to what once was. While you are the youngest you will ever be again, why not write down your life laws and maybe send them to me? I ’ d love to hear what life has taught you.