Happy Mondays
Leading life and happiness coach
THERE’S a kind of collective groan that descends when you ask folk are they set for Christmas. Of course you will always get the manically organised minority who boast of having done all their festive shopping in the January sales and have cooked and frozen everything from canapés to gravy months ago with time to stuff their own crackers.
More likely than not you’re with the rest of us, slightly trembling as the juggernaut of Christmas descends and Eau d’Anxiety and Tension Truffles will be on Santa’s list whether you like it or not.
So here’s a little salve that even a make-up company can’t deliver this year to ease those frowns and robin’s feet around the eyes – something to help you take stock and relax and clear the path of the snow drift of stress.
These are 10 things you don’t need to worry about:
Pre-preparing – let go of control. We can control a lot less in life than we think. Relinquish the need to plan life to the finest detail and thus setting yourself up for upset when reality and relatives don’t live up to expectations. It’s all a mystery and therein lies the magic. Enjoy the ride.
Turkeys – fear of failure. We all fail. No one has a 100 per cent success rate. It’s called living and trying things, experiencing life, being your potential, taking a risk, having a go and learning. What if it was a learning curve that guaranteed a life well-lived?
“I want what he/she has got” – compare and despair. When you unfavourably compare your life with others you will lose 100 per cent of the time. Be grateful for what you have, honour your own journey. You’ve no idea what goes on behind the scenes in someone else’s life.
The present – if you are feeling sadness you are thinking or living in
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INOW here’s a funny thing: the brain can’t tell the difference between real smiles or laughs and fake ones. You have the same feel-good chemicals flooding in. So today – even if life is hard and painful – find a reason to smile and enjoy the tonic. DO love things (and people) that do what they say they are going to do. It takes a work of genius to see a problem then design something to relieve it.
So it was with hope that I tried a new brand of “no sag” tights. Women with long legs across the UK the past. If you feel anxiety your thoughts are in the future. The present is where peace is.
People-pleasing – yes, we all want to give generously and make others happy. But when you dance to someone else’s tune trying to gain acceptance and strive for compliments you put your power in the hands of others.
Looking good – none of us is happy with the shape we are in. Big butt, bad skin, sagging jaw, hair where even David Attenborough hasn’t seen it – we are all great big neurotic bags of skin unhappy with our lot. One day you’ll look back and wish you looked like you do now.
It’s all stuff – nobody went to their grave saying: “I’m so glad I got that trouser suit.” A friend, whose wealthy geriatric aunt was recently decluttering, saw designer shoes (no longer fitting because of arthritis), objets d’art too big to downsize and couture dresses galore no more to be worn sold off at bargain basement prices. Stuff. End of.
Perfectionism – if you want to make a simple job complicated, a quick job last hours and to get hung up on detail when “good enough” would have sufficed then aim for perfectionism. It won’t make you happy but you think it will. How will anything match up?
Not having enough – we have a lot more than we need but we always want more. Try to develop an abundance mindset. Anyway there’s a charity shop somewhere selling off someone else’s “no longer needs”. (See tip above.)
Feeling unloved – I’m afraid that has to start with you. Self-love sounds cringeworthy but acceptance and even liking the self automatically makes you happier, life feels better and you become irresistibly attractive to others. PS: (Batteries are not included). will know the misery of tights that drag down causing midriff wadge and a penguin-like sag.
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