DATE DOCTOR’S VERDICT
OUR dating doctor, Alana Kirk, a single mother of three and a midlife dater herself, says setting limits can restrict our options. Here, she looks at finding a balance between clear boundaries and setting the bar too high. EVERYONE dreads that date where you turn up to find an altogether different person waiting at the table than you had expected to meet.
While we can’t all meet Daniel Craig (or Rachel Weisz), we can have a clear idea in our minds about what we want.
However, sometimes, we need to be prepared to open our minds a little bit more, rather than insisting on a particular look (for example, only tall men) or stage in life (only younger women). This can stop us from meeting someone who could turn out to be the type of person we are really searching for.
Age, in particular, is a very vague aspect of a person’s profile.
There are plenty of people who act and look ‘younger’ than expected, given their age — and plenty, on the other hand, who act and look much older.
Today, age is such an imprecise formula for assessing someone’s suitability that we might be putting a perfect partner offlimits if we keep self-imposed restrictions too tight.
Just be careful not to make your rules too rigid — and end up missing out.