Like he was hold­ing a knife to my throat

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A YOUNG woman ‘lured in’ and tor­mented by Falder said she had hu­mil­i­ated her­self at his com­mand be­cause it felt as if he was hold­ing a knife to her throat.

The vic­tim, who was a school­girl at the time, lived in con­stant fear the Cam­bridge grad­u­ate would send com­pro­mis­ing im­ages to her friends and fam­ily – and was even black­mailed into eat­ing dog food.

She was first ap­proached by Falder on Gumtree af­ter post­ing an ad­vert as a babysit­ter to earn money while study­ing for her ex­ams.

Falder posed as a de­pressed artist called Liz and duped the girl into send­ing nude im­ages to be used as ‘taste­ful’ il­lus­tra­tions. As soon as she sent photos, his man­ner changed from ‘nice’ to ‘threat­en­ing’.

Over two months, he black­mailed her into send­ing pic­tures of her­self lick­ing toi­let seats, a loo brush and san­i­tary prod­ucts.

Speaking anony­mously yes­ter­day, the vic­tim, who did not see Falder in per­son un­til he ap­peared in the dock of Birm­ing­ham Crown Court for his crimes, said: ‘It was mes­sages ev­ery day, so it felt like for­ever. Ev­ery day when I woke up, there would be a mes­sage. When I came home from school, there would be a mes­sage … When I wasn’t ac­tu­ally talk­ing to him, I was wor­ried about when the next mes­sage was go­ing to come.’

At school she could not fo­cus and was ‘scared’ to go out or risk meet­ing her tor­men­tor. She said: ‘I didn’t tell any­one. I was ashamed … they [the pic­tures] were aw­ful and I didn’t want any of my friends to think that I wanted to do that.’

The vic­tim added: ‘But I felt like no one would un­der­stand be­cause there was no one there hold­ing a knife to me say­ing, “You will do this”, even though it felt like that.’

The or­deal led to the break­down of her re­la­tion­ship with fam­ily and friends. She said: ‘I don’t talk to my fam­ily any more … It’s hard to have a fam­ily and a part­ner and friends when you don’t trust them.’

The woman said she would ‘al­ways be scared of meet­ing new peo­ple’. She urged teenagers to be care­ful what they say to strangers on­line, adding ‘it’s a dan­ger­ous place to be’.

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