DON’T LISTEN IF HE TELLS YOU TO RELAX

SO OFTEN we’re told to relax to increase our sexual pleasure. But this is both the best and worst advice: yes, you should try to relax your mind, but if you lie there motionless and expect an orgasm to hit you like a bolt from the blue, it’s rather unlikely.

Instead, when you’re in bed, it’s best to tense your muscles. Squeeze your bottom and the muscles of your private parts, relax for a moment, and then tighten again. This increases the blood flow to your genitals making it all much more enjoyable, and more likely to lead to an orgasm. Another way to increase blood flow is to use your muscles before sex. If you go for a run, or exercise, before making love, it makes it easier to get aroused and increases many people’s capacity to reach orgasm.