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Parents, for pity’s sake stop pestering us teachers with your petty emails!

- By Becky Harris

AquIET Sunday evening and I’m snuggled on the sofa, with my husband Matt, watching film credits roll up the screen. Our two-year-old daughter, Molly, has been sleeping soundly for hours and as I glance at the clock and see the time is just after 11pm, I realise we should head to bed, too.

Suddenly my phone vibrates loudly, startling us both. ‘Who’s that at this time?’ frowns Matt.

I check my mobile to find a text message from the mother of an 11-year-old boy in my form: ‘ Hi Mrs Harris, ryan had massive argument w his dad. We’ve confiscate­d Xbox. May be in a bad mood tmrw. Sorry!’ ‘OK,’ I reply. It may be the weekend, at an hour when even family and friends would think twice about texting. But ryan’s mother, and other parents at my state secondary comprehens­ive, seem to have no such social filter.

As form tutor to 30 children and English teacher to hundreds more, I receive at least a dozen emails or texts a week from parents outside school hours.

Some don’t think twice about pinging me an email at 9pm on a Friday night to ask me about their child’s progress when all I want to do is unwind with a glass of wine and a takeaway. Others text asking for a homework extension on behalf of their child at 7am on a Monday morning, before I’ve even buttered my toast.

I’ve had calls when I’m reading a bedtime story to Molly, texts when I’m on holiday with my family and emails when my head is about to hit the pillow. I feel I’m on call 24/7.

So I had to smile when I saw that parents at some private schools have been asked to sign behaviour contracts, including agreeing not to spread gossip about their school on WhatsApp groups or post on social media.

It’s part of widespread changes to the way parents and teachers interact. The pervasive ondemand 24/7 culture has crept into education — and it’s insane.

Education Secretary Damian Hinds recently urged teachers not to spend their evenings and weekends responding to emails from pushy parents.

‘Education is one of the few sectors where technology has been associated with an increase in workload rather than the reverse,’ he said.

‘I’m sure none of us now could imagine a life without email, but do we ever stop to think how much of our day is actually spent reading or replying to them?’

PARENTS expect a certain level of two-way communicat­ion from a teacher in a way which didn’t exist a few years ago. I must spend hundreds of hours every year responding to messages outside working hours.

Of course, people in other profession­s receive out- of- hours emails from bosses, colleagues and clients. But as a teacher, you’re in loco parentis and feel a duty of care to respond.

no wonder teachers are leaving the profession in the highest numbers since records began.

According to one survey, 80 per cent of teachers have seriously considered resigning in the past 12 months because of their heavy workload. Sadly, one in three new teachers quits the classroom within the first five years. It wasn’t always like this. When I first became a teacher in 2007, contact with parents was limited to twice-yearly parent-teacher evenings. Occasional­ly a mother or father would come into school for a chat or we’d receive a scribbled note via the child.

But around six years ago things started to change.

Teachers had far more admin than ever before. not only did we have to lesson-plan and mark, but we had to be more accountabl­e for our actions. If we gave someone a detention, we had to write down the reasons for it. As part of that drive to make us more accountabl­e, parents and pupils were given access to our school email address and our phone numbers were made available ‘for emergencie­s’.

now, they can contact us 24 hours a day — and it has become relentless. But because the culture at my school is that you always have to be ‘at work’. I feel compelled to respond.

So why the constant barrage of messages? Some mothers and fathers are simply struggling to

‘parent’ and ask me for words of advice. Messages about missing PE kits and stationery are common; there’s an expectatio­n that it’s my problem to sort out.

There are times when I’m relieved parents can confide in me. If a child’s home situation is difficult — a divorce, for instance — then it’s useful for any teacher to be aware that the child’s focus might not be entirely on their schoolwork. I want to help.

But the messages which keep me awake at night are from parents asking me about their ‘missing’ child.

On a Friday evening I’ll get texts saying: ‘ X hasn’t come home from school — have you seen him?’ and I’ve no idea what’s happened to X until I return to school on Monday to find he’d visited a friend. not all messages make me anxious. I’ve received emails of praise and gratitude from parents and children, which is lovely. But this constant twoway communicat­ion is not only annoying, it puts teachers in a precarious position. There is a safeguardi­ng policy in place to protect us all from unwanted attention or accusation­s, but I know some colleagues and parents communicat­e on their private phones. I’ve never done it. It can be dangerous when a profession­al relationsh­ip spills over into friendship, and all it takes is one ‘inappropri­ate text’ to find yourself hauled in front of the board of governors. not all teachers succumb to the pressure of being constantly available. One older male teacher at my school locks away his laptop in the school cupboard every evening, and people know he simply won’t be contactabl­e until he’s next in school. But for other staff, there’s a subconscio­us competitio­n as to who can be most available. not me. The pressure, and constant demand to be ‘on’ all the time became so relentless that in recent months I’ve changed jobs, opting for self- employment within the education sector. no longer do I have the responsibi­lity of answering emails and texts from parents, and it feels as if a huge weight has been lifted. I’ve become one of the statistics of teachers leaving the full-time profession — a real shame, as it’s a job I love. But for the first time in years, I’m sleeping properly. The aches and pains in my back are gone. I am no longer jumpy around my phone. My husband says it’s like having a different person in the house. And at least now we can watch a film on a Sunday evening without too many interrupti­ons. Names and identifyin­g details have been changed.

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