THIS IS WHAT 63 LOOKS LIKE

SaRa WheateR lives in London. She has two children, Indigo, 30, and Sienna, 28. She has been a life coach for more than 30 years.

MIDLIFE REINVENTION

NINE years ago, the father of my children left us — for a 23-year-old girl he’d met while working abroad. It was a shock but set me on a new path: I spent five years rediscovering my identity after 24 years in a relationship. I needed to be single for a while, but I’ve now met someone new.

DITCH THE BOTOX

AFTER my separation, I tried Botox but I hated not being able to move my forehead. Instead, I get a facial every six weeks, with Una Brennan, a facialist based in Notting Hill (£110). It’s a deep cleanse, involving massage. I also use Biologique Recherche Crème Masque Vernix ( biologique rechercheuk.co.uk). It’s a face mask that you don’t wash off and then layer with Biologique Crème au Collagene Marin to protect skin.

RUSSIAN STEAM ROOM

ONCE a fortnight, I visit a banya, a Russian spa in East London ( gobanya.

co.uk). It includes a hot steam, sauna then a dip in a cold pool, and a ‘parenie’ treatment, where they hit you with birch twigs to stimulate circulation. In between sessions, I bathe in sea salt twice a week, for 20 minutes. I buy 25kg in bulk on Amazon (£18.26). It’s brilliant for joint pain.

HEALTHY HAIR REGIME

I’VE BEEN going to the same hairdresser for more than 40 years ( vanclarke.com). Michael cuts my hair dry every eight weeks, which helps give it more movement. I also get it coloured twice a year. And I get a weekly blow-dry, which has made a huge difference to my confidence.

GOODBYE GYM

ANOTHER life change I’ve made is to only do what I love. This includes abandoning the gym. Instead, I do three Garuda Method classes a week ( thegaruda.net). It’s a mix of Pilates, yoga and dance, using circular movements to centre your energies and build core strength.