LETTING GO OF YOUR NEGATIVE STORIES

I Often tell clients that what they think of as their limitations are really just negative stories they tell themselves. We all have the power to change stories within ourselves.

I’m now going to show you how to let go, stage by stage, of any old stories you may be telling yourself, so that your natural emotional equilibrium can return to balance.

We are going to take the major unhappy memories out of your mind and put them on an imaginary wall of very small black and white pictures and just before they disappear, see them for what they are now — just thoughts.

1 Think about a situation you have been stressing and/or worrying about.

2 Now, begin to notice what you’ve been telling yourself about that situation. ‘There’s nothing I can do to change this.’ ‘I was just born this way.’ ‘I’ve been told by an “expert” that I can’t change.’

3 Now, really hear that inner voice and notice where it is coming from. Is it the front, side or back of your head?

4 Imagine floating those words out of your head and imagine hearing those words coming from somewhere about 12ft away from you. Hear it as if they are coming from over there now.

As you hear it telling you that old story from 12ft away, notice how different it feels to hear it like that.

This simple difference allows your mind to recalibrate and frees you from identifying with that story. Hearing that voice over there means that there is now room for a different story over here.

5 Now, as gradually as you like, turn down the volume of that story over there.

6 Notice that you are now free to tell yourself a new story — a story of possibility, hope, and power. You may want to write down your new story or even speak it out loud. The more you repeat your new story, the more real it will start to become for you.

By now you should be feeling significantly calmer with more emotional equilibrium.

So let’s move to the next step of my three-point plan to unearth the new, more positive you, with a masterclass in resilience and some more confidence-boosting exercises.