I SENSE SHE’S CHEATING BY HER GLANCES

Dear Coleen

I have this gut feeling that my wife has been having an affair with her sister’s husband. I’ve caught many signs and I’ve seen it in her eyes. And I’ve picked up on awkwardness between them when her sister and I are around. When I’ve questioned her about it she gets angry and throws me the divorce card. The trouble is, they live on the same street, so there’s no getting away from them. My wife won’t admit it, of course. And I know her immediate family is saying I’m crazy and sick minded for thinking this about my wife. But I know something is going on or at least has gone on between them while we’ve been married. I’m at the point where I actually am considering divorce. What can I do?

Coleen says

You don’t say you actually have any proof they’ve been having an affair – you can’t base it on seeing something in her eyes. And what does her sister think about it – surely she would have picked up on something? The reason they might be acting awkwardly around each other is because you’ve been very public about the fact you think they’re sleeping together! I think you need to sit down with your wife again and talk to her, but not in an accusatory way. Tell her how you feel – insecure and suspicious – and why. But if she still denies anything is going on, then I think you have to accept her answer if you have no other proof. But if you decide to stay with her, then make it clear that if you find out she’s been lying to you and making you feel like you’re going mad, then you won’t be hanging around. And divorce will follow.