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I totally agreed with your response to the woman thinking of eloping to avoid having to invite her recovering alcoholic father to her wedding (Dear Coleen, June 14). Like you said, he’ll be just as hurt to find out she’d eloped because of him as he will be if she doesn’t invite him to her big family wedding. Honesty, tempered with kindness and empathy, is the best policy here. She ought to let her dad be part of the process. I’m sure they can all come to a solution that suits everyone and which makes for a happy occasion. Cynthia, via email