I REALLY MISS LITTLE LOVE OF MY LIFE

Dear Coleen

I’m a 62-year-old single man and I have a granddaughter who is two. I’ve been looking after her since she was four weeks old. In all that time, there has only been one occasion I’ve gone longer than four days without seeing her. She probably stayed with me 20 or more days out of every month, but now my son and his girlfriend have split up and his girlfriend won’t answer my calls. It’s tearing me apart. I love that little girl more then anything in the world and she loves me too. She will be wondering where I am. It’s now been a week without any contact – please help.

Coleen says

It’s only been a week – which I know must seem like an eternity – but her mum might be angry and trying to punish your son in a way she knows will hurt. And she’s decided you’re not seeing her either. I would keep trying to get in touch with her and explain that what’s gone on between her and your son is none of your business, but you love your granddaughter and it breaks your heart not to see her. I would also tell her she’s always welcome at your place with your granddaughter, and let her know you’re not taking sides. She might just need some time to calm down and think things through. So I think the best route is to appeal to her gently and kill her with kindness. Hopefully, she’ll realise it’s not your fault and that you and your granddaughter have a special connection. For more support, it’s worth visiting grandparentsassociation.org.uk. Good luck.