GUILT OVER PAL’S KISSES AT UNI

Dear Coleen

I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now. We live a long way from each other and I only see him once every month or so because we’re at different universities. Things are going well and I really enjoy being with him. I definitely love him, and everyone thinks we are good for each other. However, I’m finding it hard because I see him so little and I have a lot of male friends at uni who I hang out with. I have kissed one of my male friends twice, even though I don’t feel anything towards him. I think I just like the attention as I haven’t had this much of it before. I don’t want to break up with my boyfriend and I know for a fact I will never cheat on him again because I’ve found it so hard this past month living with the guilt. What do you think I should do?

Coleen says

Are you trying to convince me or yourself? It’s hard when you’re young and you go off to uni and meet lots of new people. It’s very exciting. And it’s OK if it’s just not working trying to maintain a long-distance relationship. I don’t think it is working for you at the moment, so why not be honest with your boyfriend. For all you know, he might be feeling the same way. Maybe you both want to spread your wings, but don’t want to upset each other. Why not take a break from the relationship and see how it goes. Maybe you will end up back together, but I think you need a break to allow yourself to enjoy university and work out how you really feel.