SPLIT DUE TO ROW OVER MY SON

Dear Coleen

be honest about how he feels. After all, if you get back together, are you going to take offence if he says anything else about your son? Are you going to keep lending your son money and then lie about it? He’s probably not the right man because you don’t want to be with somebody when you’re constantly arguing over how you parent. I’ve had a bit of this with my husband, and it’s an age-old problem. We’re soft with our own kids and I don’t know any mum who isn’t slipping their child the odd tenner when they need it. But he’s right about your son – he is taking advantage of you. So maybe stop worrying about this man and have it out with your son instead – because the way he’s treating you isn’t acceptable.

I’ve been divorced twice and I’m 66. Last year I met a man I used to go to school with, who was also recently divorced. We started seeing each other and I was the happiest I’d been in years.

However, he didn’t approve of the way my son was treating me. For example, he often borrows money from me and then I don’t hear from him for weeks after.

This man mentioned to me how unfair he found this and I became cross and defensive as I felt he was putting down my son.

He was actually right, but I don’t like to hear anybody criticise my son and we ended up having an argument. He stormed out and we haven’t spoken since.

This was about a month ago and I’ve now found out he’s seeing somebody else. I’m totally devastated. How could he get over me that quickly? I want to try to get him back but I don’t know whether I should now that he’s seeing this woman.

I’ve heard they’ve only been on a few dates. What do you think?

Coleen says

Well, it sounds as if he’s decided you’ll never agree on the son situation and he probably can’t be bothered with it.

He probably thinks you’re always going to be in the middle of the two of them and he can’t