DAUGHTER’S BOYFRIEND DISGUSTS ME

Dear Coleen

Our 26-year-old daughter is having an affair with her married boss, who has two young children.

My wife knows all about it and while she doesn’t agree with what our daughter is doing, she does allow her to invite this man into our house (our daughter still lives at home). But I’m disgusted with how she is behaving and I don’t think we should let him in.

I’ve told my wife if our daughter wants to continue seeing him she should have more respect for us and either move out to her own place or meet him somewhere else.

But my wife, who has always doted on our daughter – an only child – says we must support her despite not agreeing with what she’s doing.

I want to warn this man off, but my wife has insisted I don’t get involved. Who is in the right?

Coleen says

Well morally, it’s you.

You need to remind your wife that your beloved daughter is being treated appallingly and is basically being used by this married man, who is having his cake and eating it.

He even has such disrespect he’s willing to cheat on his wife and young children in his girlfriend’s parents’ house. That’s pretty low.

Why not say to your wife, surel your daughter deserves better than this?

He’s probably going to end up hurting your daughter by going back to his wife or by meeting another young girl to cheat with.

If it were my daughter, I’d say: “Look, you know I love you, but I can’t let this situation happen in my own home. And what makes you think he’s going to treat you well if this is how he treats the mother of his children?”

As for confronting him, you could politely ask: “Exactly what kind of future are you offering my daughter?”