HE WON’T TELL HIS EX ABOUT ME

Dear Coleen

I have been dating a guy for about seven months. Previously, he was with someone for six years, and it’s almost a year since they broke up.

The problem is we all attend the same university. He and his ex still talk almost every day during breaks, and recently they have been texting more and more.

Here’s the thing – he won’t tell her about me. He says he doesn’t want to break her heart, but the situation is breaking mine. It kills me to see him talk to her and text her all the time.

He insists he loves me and not her, but I feel as if he isn’t respecting me at all. What should I do? I love him very much, but this issue with his ex is driving me insane.

I can’t get her out of my mind.

Dear Coleen

Yes, it’s hard to break someone’s heart, but they haven’t been together for nearly a year, so she’s been through the heartache and I’m sure she expects him to meet someone else.

Basically, your boyfriend is saying his ex’s heart is more important than yours.

Tell him that, while you won’t grab him and start kissing him in front of his ex as you have no interest in rubbing her nose in it, you’re not willing to be his secret or put up with him seeing and texting his ex all the time.

You’re either his girlfriend or you’re not.

I think it would be fine if she was part of your group of friends and you saw her together now and again, but I think your boyfriend is being sneaky and dishonest.