NEW HUBBY LIED ABOUT SECRET KID

Dear Coleen

I’ve been married for just three months and I’ve realised that my husband is a compulsive liar.

I’ve only just found out that he has another child he never told me about. When I confronted him, he denied it all night before finally caving in and admitting everything.

Since then he’s been begging me to forgive him.

I can’t take this because he has other children with different women, which I knew about and accepted, but now this.

He also lies about his whereabouts and goes AWOL, leaving me feeling like I’m losing my mind. I already want a divorce.

Coleen says

Covering up the fact you have a child is a big lie and not something you should be hiding from your future wife.

And, of course, now he’s lied about something that important, you’ll be wondering what else is going to come out.

He’s not doing anything to calm your fears by going AWOL all the time and you don’t know where he is or what he’s up to.

So I can understand why, after only three months of marriage, you want to throw in the towel.

And I think if that’s what you really feel, then you should do it. You definitely need time away from him to think about what you want and make a plan.

If you decide to leave him permanently, then don’t worry or feel embarrassed that you’ve been married for only three months – you’re not the failure, he is.

It seems to me that he’s keeping big parts of his life away from you and, unless he’s willing to commit, he shouldn’t be married.