Daily Mirror (Northern Ireland)

Anger management

- BY SUSAN GRIFFIN

WE can be an angry lot at any time of the year but it’s the festive season that really gets us fired up to go bang faster than a Christmas cracker.

More than half of us have family disagreeme­nts during this time, with the average family’s first Christmas Day argument kicking off before lunch.

National Anger Awareness Week runs from December 1 to 7 with the intention of arming people with the tools they need to see the season through without showdowns over the turkey.

We asked the experts about anger – what it is, why it affects us so much, and how we can curb it. The roots of anger are to do with feeling hurt or pain or some sort of self-reflection you don’t want to consciousl­y acknowledg­e.

Expressing that hurt in an honest way can be a challenge but healthy relationsh­ips are based on honest communicat­ion.

People keep changing so our relationsh­ips need to go through constant realignmen­t. Be aware of how you feel about a relationsh­ip and any frustratio­ns you have, be willing to communicat­e this and be prepared to hear this from someone else. right. But unmanaged or left unacknowle­dged it can be, so learn to manage your own anger.

Be grounded and remind yourself to keep your cool and think about the consequenc­es of losing your temper. Take long, deep breaths, count backwards from 20 to one, listen to some calming music, go for a walk, or visualise a tranquil place.

 ??  ?? EXPERT: Gurpreet Singh, a counsellor and psychother­apist for Relate (relate.org.uk)
EXPERT: Gurpreet Singh, a counsellor and psychother­apist for Relate (relate.org.uk)

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