HE ADMITTED HE LIKES TO WEAR A BRA

Dear Coleen

My boyfriend and I have been together for 18 months and recently moved in together. We are both in our late 30s and have no children.

When we were moving into our own flat I found some women’s clothes in the back of his wardrobe.

I thought they might belong to his ex girlfriend, but she was short and tiny and the clothes were quite big.

When I asked him whose they were, he looked embarrassed then admitted they’re his and he used to like dressing up in women’s clothes when he was on his own.

He says he hasn’t done it for about two years, and certainly not since we’ve been together, but I just don’t know whether to believe him.

I haven’t been able to have sex with him since. What should I do?

Coleen says

I think you need to have a proper chat about this. It’s obviously something he enjoys doing, so you need to try to understand it better.

He’s saying he hasn’t done it for two years, but I don’t know whether to believe that. If it gives him pleasure, then my guess is he does it more often. Why else would he keep the clothes?

I know I couldn’t be OK with it. But everybody is different. If you come to accept it, perhaps you could say he can do it when you’re not around.

But if you’re saying it’s a turn off then I’m not sure it’s something you’ll be able to put up with.

You need to get the full story then think long and hard about this, and decide whether this is a deal breaker in your relationship.