I CANNOT GET THIS WOMAN OUT OF MIND

Dear Coleen

I’ve been with my girlfriend for four years and we’re very happy together. We’re soulmates, sex is fine and we hardly ever row.

However, I met this woman recently through a mutual group of friends and I can’t stop thinking about her. There’s definitely a connection between us – the kind of thing I haven’t felt since I first met my girlfriend.

She makes me feel good about myself and excited about life again.

I’m confused about this because I love my girlfriend and see a future with her. I’m trying to ignore how I feel about this other woman, but it’s not really working. Any ideas?

Coleen says

It’s normal to find other people attractive, even when we’re in a happy relationship – anyone who says different is lying!

But what you really have to imagine is what your life would be like if you didn’t have your girlfriend and you were with this other woman.

All relationships settle into a routine and there’s less excitement than when you first got together.

The same thing would happen with this woman.

It’s not just about sexual chemistry, it’s about love and respect and finding someone you want to spend your life with.

Perhaps your relationship is in a bit of rut and you need to think about shaking it up a bit.

Long-term relationships will experience peaks and troughs – that’s all part of life.

So if you’re in a bit of a trough, look at how you can get out of it before moving on to the next woman who excites you.