I DON’T WANT MY AUNTIE TO RUIN WEDDING

Dear Coleen

I’m getting married in February and I’m really looking forward to it, but there’s one fly in the ointment – my dad’s sister.

I’ve never got on with her, in fact, she’s never been nice to me and I resent the fact I have to invite her to my wedding when she can barely say a civil word to me.

She doesn’t have a partner or kids and my mum has said I should rise above it because she’s probably unhappy and a bit jealous. But I don’t want my day to be ruined if she says something horrible.

What do you think?

Coleen says

Well, I could say it’s your day and invite who you want. However, I actually think your mum’s right – it sounds like your auntie’s behaviour is down to her unhappiness.

And, on your wedding day, you’ll probably see her once to say hello and then you’ll be busy enjoying the day and mingling with all your other guests.

You’ll be in your own little bubble and I doubt an unkind comment from your auntie will ruin things.

The truth is, we all have that one relative who’s a pain in the backside. Realistically, it’s your parents who’ll be left to deal with her.

You’re about to have this wonderful day, getting married to the man you love, so try to find a little bit of empathy for her and decide not to let it affect you.

If you don’t invite her, you risk igniting a lifelong family feud and I don’t think it’s worth it. If you behave with grace, she’ll never be able to throw it back in your face that she wasn’t at the wedding!