SAYS HE LOVES ME BUT WON’T LEAVE HIS WIFE

Dear Coleen

I’ve been having an affair with a married man for just over a year.

I’m not proud of it, but it’s addictive and sexy and I’m in love with him.

He’s never talked about leaving his wife. But he says sex between us is the best he’s ever had and he can’t imagine not having that sexual chemistry in his life.

I feel the same, but I’m 29, single and want a proper relationship and a family at some point.

He’s said the ‘L word’ and I’ve told him I love him, too, but he’s never talked about ‘us’ and where we go from here. If I bring it up, he gets tetchy and tells me not to spoil what short time we have together.

I know he feels guilty about our affair, but that’s not my problem and I want him to acknowledge my feelings, too. Can you help?

Dear Coleen

I don’t want to dump a cold bucket of water on your passion, but it’s a very familiar story. Married man has affair with single woman. Man dodges any conversation about leaving his wife. Things carry on until single woman wakes up and smells the coffee. End of story.

This is going nowhere and the longer it carries on, the harder it will be to end.

You deserve to have a proper relationship and a family, but don’t leave it too late in the hope your married lover will have an epiphany and run off with you.

Also, what kind of guy is he? He’s cheating on his wife with you, which means he could do exactly the same thing to you if you did end up together. If you walk away and it prompts him to end his marriage to commit to you, then fine. But until then, stay away. You deserve more from life and his wife definitely deserves better.