MUM FRIEND IS FROSTY AFTER BABY GIFT SNUB Coleen says

Dear Coleen

I had a baby a year ago and, at the time, one of my friends didn’t send a card or a gift, which I thought was odd. I’ve always thought of her as a good friend, so I suppose I felt a bit hurt that she didn’t acknowledge the birth of my daughter. However, I moved past it pretty quickly and it didn’t affect our friendship.

Anyway, fast forward to now and this friend has recently had a baby herself. I sent a congratulations card with a lovely message, but didn’t send her a gift. It wasn’t a tit-for-tat thing, but I figured that maybe she just wasn’t into buying gifts or receiving them.

Now, though, she’s being cold with me and has left me out of a few things – like a virtual “meet the baby” video call with friends.

What is her problem? I would love to know!

You could literally drive yourself mad trying to work out what her problem is, so spare yourself all the headache.

Why not be upfront? Just say: “Are we OK? I wondered if I’d done something to offend you because I wasn’t on the call and you haven’t been in touch”.

See what she has to say and maybe it will open up a discussion and you can resolve things.

Who knows why she didn’t send a card or a gift – maybe she was broke, maybe she felt a bit jealous because, who knows, she might have been trying to conceive herself with no luck. But it’s not worth losing sleep over.

If she doesn’t want to be truthful, then move on. I’m sure you have other friends and don’t need one who brings negativity.