UPSET HE MADE NO EFFORT FOR VALENTINE’S

Dear Coleen

I’ve been with my boyfriend for four years and we live together. He’s a great partner and our relationship is good, however, Valentine’s Day passed him by completely and I didn’t even get a card!

I know lots of people say it’s just commercial and only one day out of the year, but I can’t help being hurt that he didn’t acknowledge it in any way, even though I bought him a card and a small gift.

Should I be hung up on this or not? It took me all day to mention it and, when I did, he just said jokily, “It’s Valentine’s Day for me every day, baby.” What do you think?

Coleen says

Well, I’m a bit of a sucker for V-day, being an old romantic. But I think he’s got a point. I think it’s far better to make the effort for each other every day and nurture your relationship, than feel pressured to make a gesture on Valentine’s Day just because it is what’s expected.

Maybe what you need to do is discuss romance generally if you’re not feeling appreciated or things have got a bit mundane.

It’s fair enough to tell him you were disappointed he didn’t acknowledge it, but you don’t say whether he’s ever made a thing of Valentine’s Day or whether he never buys you a card or a gift.

Also, it might not be important to him, but if it means something to you then it shouldn’t be a big deal to recognise it in some way.

He doesn’t have to buy you a bunch of flowers or even a card, but doing something nice for you and telling you he loves you would, I’m sure, go a long way.

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